This is a complex one and something I will share on often, but let me start with this post.

Take responsibility

One of the first big massive enormous steps to me finding healing, inner peace, happiness in life, was accepting responsibility.

I am not an alcoholic or gambler or drug addict or abusive because my parent/s were. Oh, and no, mine never were.  Let me carry on though with the analogy.   They did not make me drink, smoke, go gambling, etc.

Sure, some parents may set bad examples but they still don't make you do anything. That is an excuse and a very lame one at that. In my case, my parents set an amazing example. I chose every action I did and I have to own it and take responsibility for it all.

That reality took me awhile to come to terms with. I could blame no one but me. Ouch. Once  I came to terms with that though I could start reprograming my mind and the rest all started falling into place.

So, having come to terms with that I then had to come to terms with who makes me angry, mad, sad, frustrated ... I did not like that answer either. I did. No one can make me do or feel anything, except me. Yes, again, I am responsible. No one else.

It is a one step at a time lesson and journey. I had to be patient with myself. Kind to myself. Love myself. Accept myself as I travelled this new journey, new adventure.

Till next time, Yvonne